It’s been 2 months since I’ve moved back in with my parents. Moving to my home country, I thought, was going to be exciting and full of new adventures. It’s that moment when you realise you are the one that changed, but back home everything is the same way you left it. Or worse.
Dealing with friends
After being away physically from your town and your friends for a while, you get excited about the thought of moving back home and getting together with those people who you’ve seen mostly on Facebook for the last couple of years. And then you get back home, and you realise they were not necessarily waiting for you, but they just have grown too busy to be the way you remember them.
Ageing is an inevitable process and with age different responsibilities appear. People get into relationships, get married, have kids and get jobs they hate and are afraid to quit. Don’t ask me, I have no idea why they do it, but it’s goodbye to the endless parties you were used to.
I just guess some of them cling to old feelings and get stuck somewhere. There is no point of helping, most of them don’t want to be helped. And I also guess they did not read this and have no idea what to do with life, in general.
When you are away, the family has a top place in your Facebook and Skype list. Doesn’t matter if you are not that close to your family, things probably will change. And it happened to me as well.
Being apart helped my relationship with my parents and being in contact helped to reach a better understanding of each other. Moving back you realise how incredibly lucky you are. And they do too.
Feeling. Motivation. Focus
I consider it to be a very constructive tool to get an idea of who you are, being placed in another environment for a time. Taking away the background leaves the character to pursue self-knowledge and achieve progress. But only if you choose to do so.
Setting a mental barrier, which will not allow you to learn and discover the new environment and the new you in that place, will do you no good.
We have always been taught to search for clues in the outside world and always keep an eye out for clues. The truth nobody tells us is that all the answers are somewhere else. If you want to know who you are and what should you do with your life, you don’t ask people on the street, acquaintances or friends.
Time passes by no matter where and how you decide to spend it. The speed may seem different, but the quantity is the same. I now feel I owe it to the life I was given to use this time to be useful to somebody, to give something back and to progress.
Progress equals happiness.
As an ongoing learning process, the needs grow every day, as well as the thirst for knowledge. Happiness is addictive and when you are doing what you love, happiness is one of the outcomes. It’s this never-ending circle, in which is hard to jump in, but everything becomes so easy once you get on board.
I discovered I don’t need a lot of people around me. I don’t have that much energy to waste with people who don’t contribute for a better time spend together.
It’s ok, you don’t have to let them know, just do your thing. Don’t worry, they do the same!
I need more time to cultivate my ideas, and there is not one excuse I can give to not achieve any of them! So if you are here to tell me otherwise, and predict how I will not achieve it, or to give it up, I’m telling you right now:
“I don’t need that kind of negative energy around me!”