What Are We Doing So Wrong On Instagram

bragging on instagram

Tired as I always seem to feel, I lay on my bed and try to enjoy social media, like anyone of you would. Not as if it is a job I have to do. I start scrolling on my Instagram, although I had no intention to. Bragging on Instagram a lot?

Bragging on Instagram

I know from a few dozen posts who is on holiday and where, and how they are spending their days there, who lost weight and who got fat, who is single and who isn’t, who bought a car, new running shoes, finished a marathon or got married. I should be happy for them, right?

Well, I’m not.

I realised it made me feel insecure, depressed, stressed out and overall, feeling worthless.

Damn you Instagram, because you made people addicted to you and now they are into such a deep relationship with you, they don’t even dare to live for more than a couple of hours and not telling everything about how they spent their time.

I’m not happy, nor do I enjoy the time spent staring at my screen. I am jealous. I envy every breath of air from those foreign lands, each sun ray that didn’t touch my skin. Damn you Instagram!

It’s not about the oversharing. It’s over bragging, about everything.

The thin line between sharing and bragging

I once heard this ” If you are using an online service for free, then you are the product being sold”. Damn it, each time I realise I’m spending my life on social media, not being paid for it, I feel like a product.

I use more time to check my Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pages etc, than I use to talk to real people, in real life. People I know. But I never seem to forget to snap something for “my story/day”, for people I haven’t talk in years maybe.

And then I remember that most people are the same. The same as I am, wanting to share and having not so many people to share it with.

Sharing experiences is one of the most basic needs of ours.

Now, bragging is a thing we all adore doing, but nobody ever admits to doing it. Yes, that random pic in an exotic country is bragging. Or a mirror selfie. Or your new boyfriend. I did it, probably will do it again. The question is why?

Firstly, it is the need to share. I get that. But for me, I feel that delivering too much leads to bragging. Probably because I used to be too much into sharing, made me now more protective of my personal life.

Secondly, because we grew to be so lonely in our lives, we have not so many people to share things with, in real life. So we reach out into the unknown. Sharing it with anyone who is willing to pay for it with their time. If this isn’t desperate, I don’t know what is. Maybe it’s not bragging, but it’s a cry for help.

 

Damn you Instagram. A love and hate relationship.

It’s not just you, or me, it’s everyone. Growing up, being told we are “special”, that we can be anything we want, get everything we wish for. Took our degrees, and realised it was all bullshit. Hello “heaven”.

This is not a generation of patience. Everything needs to happen in an instant, or we don’t want it. Because we need instant enjoyment, when we want it, and how we want it.

People can’t be like that. People are not instant. Computers are. Instagram is. Post a pic and see how your likes instantly grow, as well as your dopamine levels. Whoever determines which addictions are legal and which are not, is an idiot.

We have a more intimate relationship with our Instagram, than with probably any human being. Ok, probably I’m taking this too far. Some prefer to swipe left or right. But in some moments, I think it’s true.

In the end, we are more connected, know more details about everyone’s life than ever before, and somehow we managed to get rid of that very thing which we crave the most and makes us human: human interaction. Welcome to the matrix.

Wake up. Don’t sell yourself. Don’t cross the line.

I’m going to confess something big.

I write my ideas here, so I can remember them. I write them because I need to remember. I write for myself. I need to always remember not to sell myself, not to fall asleep in the timeless Instagram feed. I’m not the product.

Having a clearer line in my head about sharing helps in deciding what goes online and what stays offline.

The break is over. Instagram is waiting for you.

2 Replies to “What Are We Doing So Wrong On Instagram”

  1. 1) You care too much about what other people do online and read too much into their Instagram photos; all this energy could be spent on doing things for yourself which in turn make you happy. A lot of the time, the people who act a certain way online will not be the same irl, and that’s an important aspect to consider. To me, online social platforms (or the excess of use of such) allow some people to live in a fake life surrounded by illusions, a specific bubble which only exists on that platform. Have you noticed how individuals who are happy with themselves, who have an overall good social life, will probably not post every single crap they do on Instagram? Why? Because they probably don’t feel the need for inclusion or validation, or simply because they don’t believe in empowering social media platforms;

    2) People should post whatever they like on Instagram (as long as they comply with the rules of the service), and that means you will continue to see people who sell an image, because that is what makes them happy. It is a platform for exposure after all, and since that is what it was concieved for, people will exploit it;

    3) Something that would work in your case is to have two Instagram accounts – one for your travel blog, the other for your private circle of friends and family, and generally for the people you care for. In this way you will essentially filter the types of images you get in your feed, and won’t be exposed to what you call “bragging” or “oversharing”. And while I’ve touched that topic – I share photos mainly from holidays. Why? Because there’s a good chance I may never get to go there again, and because some of the sights are quite beautiful. Should I care if some random gets offended when scrolling over my holiday picture and envies me? Absolutely not. If they hate my feed, they can just unfollow me.

    1. Thank you for your comment NyanCat! I must say I do agree with your ideas and perspectives!
      The online version of people is not a new topic, which I wanted to bring up :)) It was just something I’ve noticed. On how I SEE the world. And perhaps that will make some else questioning their lives too.
      Of course, we post on social platform places, experiences and things WE consider important, which may or may not be important for the audience.
      I guess the takeaway (without any sarcasm this time), is to have a clear perspective on life and not waste so much time on sharing.
      The best used time it the one doing more of what we love.

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